Vulnerability

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I want to share some vulnerability with you. 
I’ve learned that I am called to being openly vulnerable. 
I don’t know when I realised this or how it came about but I now know this is one of my mission’s in life - to share my vulnerability to activate others to feel able to do the same.
I have a strong passion to share my voice so that it lights the path for others towards the healing they most need. We all need some form of healing - as humans we experience many forms of trauma whether it be physical, emotional or psychological - our humanness is our vulnerability.

But yet, vulnerability can be transformed into strength and it becomes a superpower. As much as our human condition can make us feel isolated and alone, it is in sharing our vulnerability that we understand this is not the case. 

By sharing what is painful and isolating is the key to opening us up to connection and healing. 
Vulnerability is the ultimate act of surrender - the surrender of control over what others will think of you in order to let those people get close and form a meaningful connection. 
Being vulnerable with others is activating. Both personally but also for those who resonate with what you are sharing. 

The willingness to be truly honest about what we’re feeling and experiencing is a gift to others. It is the focus on service to others that brings us away from the isolation and desolation. Being vulnerable is scary - vulnerability brings up fear.
​Perhaps vulnerability and fear are synonymous.

However, when you open up to people and share from your heart - that place of an authentic space of experience, it is empowering for those who resonate with your story. 
Of course, it wasn’t natural for me to be vulnerable. For many years, I kept a deep dark shameful experience that I was sexually abused aged 12. I kept that locked up because I felt it was my fault it happened. Why didn’t I stop it? How could I allow it to happen? After many years of inner healing, of course I now know it was not my fault and it was not my shame to carry.

It was in speaking my truth and sharing my experience that it brought freedom.
It was liberating when I discovered that by sharing my story from a place of vulnerability actually helped others feel less alone in their pain and grief. This is what inspired my upcoming book…if I can help just one person feel less alone and more hopeful for their healing; it has served a beautiful purpose. 

Let’s get vulnerable
I believe that it is essential for me to tap into my own vulnerability for my clients to feel safe to share theirs with me. 
I have transformed my own fear into healing and so it is part of my mission to help others do the same. Because healing brings freedom. 
I want to share some vulnerability with you that is coming up for me currently in my life.
I am about to leave a 14 year long stable career and leap into the unknown of self-employment. 

I don’t think I can describe adequately how much fear comes up around this but I will try…

I feel vulnerable because…
I feel so much fear
I am leaving behind a career that is secure & stable 
I am leaping into the unknown
I don’t know what I’m doing 
I don’t feel ready 
I feel scared
What if no one is interested in what I have to say
What if I fail

~ The point of being vulnerable is feeling the fear but doing it anyway ~

Because what if….
I fly and soar to limitless possibilities
I succeed
I find more fulfilment in my own work 
What I have to say helps others
I find more joy and meaning

Notice how the ‘fear’ list is longer but yet the ‘doing it anyway’ list is more powerful.
Can you feel the energy difference between the two?

If you are reading this, thank you for sharing my vulnerability with me.
Thank you for listening to my fears.

My hope is that this gives you permission to feel the fear and yet still share your vulnerability - even if it is upon the pages of your journal never to be shared.

This is your permission to be fully human. To not have it all worked out yet. Maybe we never will. Vulnerability becomes your strength if you can harness the fear and transform it into connection and service to others. Tune into you fear and vulnerability to harvest the nectar of the wisdom that you are here to share with the world.